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I started this blog…as so many do…to share my thoughts and insights about an important part of my life with my husband: male chastity. Yes, there are other blogs out there with lots of good information and I certainly recommend them, but I also think I have a slightly different perspective on some of these issues, so I believe I will add new information to the discussion and not repeat what’s already out there. Time will tell if I am correct.

About Us

We are a happily married couple–we celebrated our 32nd wedding anniversary in June, 2010. My husband is 57 and I am 55. We live in a small city in the northeast United States. For the purposes of this blog, I have adopted two pseudonyms: Dev for me, from Devoted Lover–because I am, he is, and we are. I am calling my husband Ab. That comes from a long-standing nickname. My husband was born on the feast day of St. Anthony Abbott. When we were first married, we nicknamed his cock “Little Abbott” and the name has stuck all these years. So we are Dev and Ab and very pleased to meet you.

The Name of the Blog

The key is on my nipple ring–the key to the Master lock that is holding my husband in chastity. I read lots of blogs where the woman/wife/keyholder would wear the key on a chain “nestled between her breasts.” Well, I have pierced nipples so why not use that jewelry for another purpose? I’ll write more about this in a blog entry, but for now, let’s just say “the key is on my nipple ring”…hidden in plain sight.

Dear Readers…

I hope you enjoy the blog. I will be updating regularly and sharing my thoughts. I welcome comments but those that are abusive or flaming will be moderated. Just so you know.

In devoted love and chastity,

Dev and Ab


1. gat - September 1, 2010

Dev and Ab

Thank you so very much for sharing. I beleive you are the first women who I have read who’s,rather than the husband suggesting,started the chasity experience. In that alone you have already added to the community.

I look forward to following your story.



devotedlvr - September 1, 2010

Thanks gat, and thanks for taking a minute to comment. I appreciate your feedback!


2. Tom Chambers - September 1, 2010


I like your blog and your interest in this area. May I ask, do you have an academic background?

Just curious

best wishes


devotedlvr - September 1, 2010

Hi Tom,

Thanks for your comment. Yes, I do have an academic background–why do you ask or how did you guess? I am in healthcare–33 years–and have worked as a clinician, faculty member, and researcher. At the moment, I own my own business and consult/write: statistics, research, grants, freelance–you name it, I’ll do it. I also work per diem at a free clinic in our city.


3. Celtic Queen - October 28, 2010

Hi Dev, took me a little while to find the most appropriate place to say hello, pleased to read you via your journal.

devotedlvr - October 28, 2010

Welcome, Celtic Queen! Glad to have you here and I am glad you are enjoying the blog!


4. tallestrina - January 8, 2011

Thanks for the really interesting blog, very well written. The key on the nipple ring idea is SO sexy, but my Venus couldn’t contemplat piercing her nipples. I suspect it hurts more than my PA!
BTW, I checked out your “stash of good looking men” and noticed some of the pics were gay. Interesting. Seeing lesbian action is sterotypically a turn-on for men: I wonder, are you intrigued by gay stuff, even as a fantasy? Sorry if the question is too intrusive.

devotedlvr - January 8, 2011

Thank you for the compliment. I am glad you are enjoying the blog.

Your Venus might surprise you, if you showed her the picture. The piercings didn’t hurt very much and healed quickly. Much more quickly than my navel (which has since been removed).

Oh, I am definitely into gay guys, that’s no secret around here! They are perfect fantasy fodder for me. I love men and my motto is, “If one is good, two are better!”


5. Ed Stone - March 22, 2011

It’s such a pleasure to stumble on a blog like this written by someone intelligent and well-educated! Thank you for sharing…

Would explain your orgasm jar? Quite likely you have done so but I couldn’t find it. Sounds intriguing.


Dev - April 8, 2011

Hi Ed,

Thanks for your comment and compliment. I am glad you enjoy the blog.

You can read about the orgasm glass in this post: http://devotedlvr.com/2011/01/04/the-orgasm-glass/

It is working very well as a way to keep track of orgasms. Thanks for your interest!


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