SWOT Analysis: Chastity January 26, 2011Posted by Dev in Musings.
Tags: chastity lifestyle, chastity outcomes, conceptual model, male chastity, women and chastity
I know many people discover this blog as they search for information on chastity, trying to decide if they want to incorporate chastity into their relationship/marriage. As part of that learning process, people naturally consider the pros and cons. This got me thinking somewhat strategically about chastity and I decided brainstorm a SWOT analysis. SWOT: strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats. Traditionally, SWOT focuses on internal (strengths, weaknesses) and external (opportunities, threats) factors. I have decided to operationalize the internal factors (S,W) as the immediate, short-term effects of chastity while the external factors are the longer-term, larger repercussions of chastity on the relationship.
Typically, a SWOT analysis is conducted with a group of people brainstorming in a room. Since I am brainstorming by myself, I definitely welcome comments and suggestions: items that I have missed, which I will add to the lists and items that might be mis-categorized.
For me, the process of thinking this through has been a fun exercise. I hope it is helpful to others!
Strategic Objective: To determine whether to become a chaste couple.
The most immediate and short-term effects that couples report from chastity are:
- Increased intimacy
- Improved communication
- Enhanced sex life
Other benefits include:
- For the man: feeling horny and sexually aroused, especially if he is wearing a device.
- For the keyholder: feelings of power and control which can be enjoyable.
- There is an increasing community of chastity enthusiasts on the Internet, thus an opportunity to make new friends.
- Reading about chastity is an opportunity to broaden your horizons and learn something new.
- For couples who choose not to use the honor system, chastity requires purchase of a device which can cost, at a minimum, $150
- For many (most?) men, wearing a device requires an adjustment/break-in period, which may be uncomfortable.
- Behavior changes, ie, sitting down to urinate, decreased masturbation; these may not be acceptable to some.
- Keyholder may perceive chastity as “work” or something else to do/be responsible for.
- Learning curve requires an investment of time and effort.
- Couples who engage in chastity report improvements in their relationship that are so profound that they do not want to “go back” to the old way of doing things. Even if they choose to stop using a device, they want to continue the positive benefits of increased intimacy, improved communication, and enhanced sex life.
- Chastity provides a mechanism for couples to explore deeper needs, desires, and fantasies (“gateway kink” as coined by Tom Allen).
- Chastity is not a panacea; for couples with a relationship that is fundamentally not healthy at the core, chastity is not going to fix it.
- Chastity is a change and for many people, change in and of itself is threatening.
- Chastity may be perceived as very kinky, weird, or “way out there”; those who are not sexually adventurous may have no interest in chastity as an activity or more broadly, lifestyle.
- If chastity is a long-held desire by the initiator (often the man), bringing it up is a risk, especially if the other partner is not interested and in fact, may be repulsed by the idea.