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The Kinky Kings December 12, 2010

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The Kinky Kings

a slightly risque photo essay by Dev


The Humbler Contest: We Have a Winner! December 11, 2010

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Slimline Humbler--the Prize!

First off, thanks to everyone who participated in the Humbler contest. I appreciate everyone who took the time to exercise their creative imaginations and post a limerick. Ab and I enjoyed reading them over lunch and selecting a winner took…well, more than one glass of wine and extensive discussion and negotiation. But, pick a winner we did and I am pleased to announce that it is


with this terrific entry:

As Ab knelt there, Dev started to muse
On the ass, balls and cock she’d abuse.
Who’d have thought so much fun
Could be made by her hon
With two pieces of wood and some screws?

What made this entry stand out, in our minds, was the acknowledgement that Ab actually built this thing–and the fact that I did have so much fun with it. This limerick was very personal and real and for that, it wins the grand prize of the Slimline Humbler. Wilson, I’ll be sending you an email to get your shipping info. The Humbler is packed and ready to go out in the mail today.

Ab did want to acknowledge two runners-up…the anti-limerick from Tom Allen:

There once was a wanton named Dev
Who lived in the woods of New England.
When asked about sex,
Replied “Sometimes we do,
But mostly we just like the spanking.”

(I think Ab and Tom have the same sense of humor! LOL). The other one we really liked was “the Canterbury Tales” series posted by Will:

The once was a woman from Maine
Who wished that her man would refrain
From touching himself
And so for his health
She decided that chaste he’d remain

Ab’s key hangs from dear Dev’s perfect chest
(She’d decided that that would be best)
It keeps him chastely inspired
When he’s in pain or tired
For what man can say no to a breast?

Ab was eager to meet Dev’s demand
Regardless of what she had planned
So he worked and designed
A Humbler so refined
That it placed his cock at her command

Dev loved her man passionately
So she kept him locked up with a key
Which she hung from her chest
And she thought ’twould be best
To deny him in perpetuity.

There once was a woman from Maine
Who liked her man locked and in pain
His balls ached and turned blue
But he was happy to do
What he knew was his loss and their gain

A nice summary of our chaste relationship in five limericks!

Thanks again for reading and entering, everybody. I hope to have another fun contest sometime soon. I certainly enjoyed this one!

Hugs to all,



Quotes from Ab: XIV December 11, 2010

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“Since I’ve started wearing a cock cage, I’ve become a tit-loving, pussy-worshipping, collar-wearing acolyte of Dev.”

Need I say more? 🙂

Re: the collar–I haven’t mentioned that before. We’ve had one around here for years that we’ve used for playtime and it has spent time on both our necks. But it’s been making a more frequent appearance in recent weeks, and Ab is always the one who is wearing it…

It’s Christmas Here In Nipple Ring Land! December 9, 2010

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I haven’t managed to do much decorating in my house, but I have decorated the blog for Christmas. Snow and trees…enjoy! I am going to leave this up for the rest of December and will have something new in 2011.

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There is still time to enter my limerick contest to win a Humbler! Details can be found in this post. Just write a five line limerick about the Humbler or chastity in general and you will entered to win. Limericks must be submitted by 6 am EST on Saturday, December 11th. The winner will be announced that day. Come on, everyone, here’s your chance to have some fun and maybe have a new, custom-crafted mahogany Humbler waiting for you in your Christmas stocking.

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Ab’s Jailbird is still for sale as noted in this post. I’ve gotten a few inquiries but no serious offers. If you are outside of the US and are interested, please contact me and we can work out something related to shipping. A guess-timate to ship to Canada is ~$20 via UPS and ~$12 via USPS (delivery in 6-10 days). I haven’t investigated other countries.

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Have a great Thursday, everyone. Let me know what you think of the Christmas theme!


Naughty or Nice… December 8, 2010

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With my newly discovered enjoyment of spanking, the cover of this book gave me a chuckle. I especially liked the spankee’s smiley face underpants. LOL.

The book includes 31 Christmas and holiday themed stories. I haven’t read any of them (yet) but there are a some familiar (to me) authors among the collection. I’ll probably pick up a few of the individual offerings to read on my Kindle over the next few weeks.

You can learn more about the anthology at the Dreamspinner Press website. Enjoy!

Contest: Win a Humbler! December 7, 2010

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Slimline Humbler--the Prize!

Our testing is done here at the Devoted Lover Research Labs and we have come up with the final version of the Slimline Humbler. Custom crafted in Maine, it’s made of mahogany, 11 ½” long and 1″ wide. Lightweight—just 4 ounces with a bolt and thumbscrew at each end. It is very discreet. Maybe it’s not as big as some of the other Humblers for sale out there, but let me assure you, it does the job it is designed to do. 😉

After we finished testing prototype version 5, Ab went off to the factory and manufactured a limited number of the custom crafted Slimline Humblers. I gave a few to close friends and kept one out for a giveaway. Yes, you may be the lucky reader who has a chance to win this limited edition (only six were made) kinky sex toy.

Entering the contest is simple: write a limerick about Humblers, or chastity in general, and post it in the comments. You know limericks, those funny little five line poems. Here’s an example, written by Yours Truly.

There once was a Humbler from Maine
Its use was simply profane
On the balls it would screw
And give such a view
For administering a big dose of pain!

Limericks may be posted until 6 am EST on Saturday, December 11, 2010. Using a completely unscientific process, Ab and I will select a winner from our favorite limericks and make the announcement sometime on Saturday. Since I want to encourage creativity, please feel free to post more than one limerick, but please post as separate comments.

Okay, boys and girls and lurkers—here’s your chance to let your kinky, poetic minds have full rein and maybe win a prize. I look forward to reading your contest entries. Good luck!

Sex at 10:30 in the Morning? December 5, 2010

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Custom Maine Humbler, Slimline, Version 5

In the kitchen?

Well, yes.

It was supposed to be Humbler version 5 prototype testing and I guess it was. It just turned out to be quite a testing session.

Earlier in the week, Ab had brought home the latest iteration of the custom Maine Humbler that he has been designing and refining. I had been so insanely busy all week, however, that we never had a moment to test it, or even try it on. This morning, after my shower and getting dressed, I saw it sitting on the bedside table. “Time to test this,” I thought to myself.

Ab was taking it easy in the kitchen (we have a semi-sitting room at the end of the kitchen, which includes a small couch and two comfy chairs). I came in, slapping the “Slimline Humbler” in my palm. He gave me a funny look. “What’s up?” he said.

“Strip,” I said. “We’re testing this thing.”

He was out of his clothes in a flash. I had the screwdriver for his Watchful Mistress which I handed over. Previous Humbler testing with the device on had not been successful so I knew he needed a naked cock. Ab quickly complied.

I had him kneel down on the floor (he managed to grab a pillow, first) and I started to put the Humbler on. He seems to think that all his junk needs to go through the hole, not just his balls. If that’s the way he wants to wear it, fine with me. I screwed it shut (the screw and nuts are way too small; that will be modified in the next version) and then stepped back and looked at my husband. There he was, kneeling on the floor in front of me, his genitals framed in wood and offered up like a beautiful prize.

It suddenly hit me that I needed to take advantage of this situation. No way was I just going to put the Humbler on and call that “testing.” I needed to give this thing a workout.

I realized that Ab was looking around, watching my every move. I needed to sensory deprive him. Fortunately, I always have at least one sleeping mask in my purse. I pulled that out, took off his glasses and covered up his eyes. “What?” he said, puzzled. That was his first inkling that this testing was more than just a Humbler fitting.

“Can you stand up?” I asked. He awkwardly got to his feet but couldn’t straighten his legs. “Okay,” I said. “Back on your knees. I need to get some stuff in the other room. Don’t move.”

“I really can’t move,” he replied.

“Don’t even try,” I responded, shortly. (In case you haven’t figured it out yet, I was getting off on this whole experience, too.)

Tenga Egg (inside)

In the bedroom, I gathered up the lube, the little lavender dildo, and a Tenga egg. I tiptoed back into the kitchen where Ab was dutifully waiting, still on his knees. “Okay,” I said. “Now we can see how well this Humbler really works.”

I dripped some lube into the Tenga egg and slipped it over his cock. “What’s that?” he asked, but I wouldn’t tell him. (He never did figure out what I was using and was very surprised to see it when the blindfold finally came off.)

“Just something to help with a little cock massage,” I said.

I went to work, giving him a nice, slow massage. We’ve had the Tenga eggs for a few weeks now, but this was the first time I really got the gist of just how effective they can be. It fits like a little sock on his cock and made the massaging just so pleasant—for me, too.

I worked at that for a while and I could see he was getting agitated. Time to kick it up a notch, as Emeril would say. I dripped some lube down his ass and on his crack and started poking at his hole. “You want something in there?” I asked. He groaned, which I took for a yes. I started pushing the lavender dildo in. This one is quite small and soft and it has a tendency to bend, especially when the recipient is not fully relaxed. I gave his bum a little slap. “Don’t tense those muscles,” I said. “You’ll like this better if you don’t fight me.” Another groan, a deep breath and the little guy slipped right in.

I could see I was in for an extended teasing session so I pulled up a chair and got comfy. Then I went to town. I’d alternate: a little cock massage, a little ass play, some ball rubbing. Around and around I went. Occasionally I’d ask Ab a question. His answers devolved from groans to incoherent mumbles. At one point he did manage to squeak out, “I think I’m going to come.” Hands off at that point to give him a few seconds to regain his composure, then I’d go back to work.

We kept up like this for a good twenty minutes or so. The Humbler (remember, that was the whole point of all this) remained firmly in place, keeping his cock and balls nicely secured and available for my teasing pleasure.

I was wondering what the next step was when Ab gave me the perfect suggestion. “Spank me, please,” he said, “so I’ll remember this all day.” Ha! I didn’t need to be asked twice.

Authentic Japanese Rice Paddle

My favorite spanker is a wooden rice paddle that my sister brought me from Tokyo many years ago (if she only knew what I am doing with it these days!). It is the right size and weight and has a nice curve that seems to perfectly fit the curve of Ab’s butt. I grabbed the paddle from its hook (so convenient being in the kitchen) and started in—lightly at first, swat, swat, cheek-to-cheek. I eventually picked up the pace. His ass pinked up nicely. When he squirmed, I’d give his cock a little Tenga massage, then play with the dildo. One might say it was a trifecta of sexual stimulation.

Eventually I realized that our Humbler testing was drawing to its natural conclusion. A few more ass slaps then I put the paddle away. I removed the dildo, blindfold, the Humbler, and last, the Tenga egg. When that came off, a mysterious substance, not seen lately around this household, dripped on the pillow below Ab’s knees. “What’s that?” I asked. “Lube?”

“I think I came,” Ab said sheepishly.

“Clean it up,” I said, and he did. He confirmed that yes, in fact, he had come.

I sent him off to the shower with all the toys. “Wash everything well,” I said, “and I want you locked up after your shower.” He complied without question.

Fifteen minutes later he was back, dressed, locked, freshly shaved and smelling squeaky clean. “Thank you,” he said, “that was a unique sexual experience. I don’t think I’ve ever done anything like that before.”

“Well,” I said, “now you know one of the benefits of being a chaste man.”

“I guess I do,” he said, with a kiss and a wink.

He’s been all twitchy since then. He paced around the kitchen, then tried to take a nap—not surprisingly, unsuccessfully. He finally decided to go to work for a few hours. I guess he figured that playing with heavy equipment is what he needs to take the edge off. LOL.

What he really needs is me. 🙂

Attention and Focus December 3, 2010

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I have been noticing that Ab seems a little distracted from a major point of our chaste lives for the past week or so, so I am posting graphic at left as a little reminder. Attention and focus, my dear!

He has been wearing his device daily since his brief hiatus last weekend. He did make an interesting comment the other day—I don’t recall the exact wording but it was something along the lines of, “The device isn’t particularly hot for me anymore, but since it turns you on, I’m happy to wear it.” I mused about hiding the key again and he said, “No, please don’t do that. I need my daily break and that’s a boundary I don’t want changed.” Fair enough. I’ll keep bringing it up, of course (because that’s what I do) but if access to the key/screwdriver is essential to keeping his head in the game, I’m willing to go along with that.

In terms of attention and focus, I suppose I could blame it on the fact that we’ve both been insanely busy this week. It’s nice having five days off for Thanksgiving, but then in the the week that follows, it seems that you have to work ten times as hard to catch up with the time that was missed. Certainly that’s been true this week for both of us. On top of that, I’m still dealing with the dregs of the worst cold in the world (15 days and counting). Fortunately, I’ve gotten past the “coughing so hard I pee in my pants” stage (THAT was unpleasant!) and I am just left with a lingering stuffy nose. Ab caught it, too, but fortunately, the virus seemed to have mutated enough (or he developed some natural immunity from having me cough and hack next to him every night) that he was never nearly as miserable as I was and the duration of his infection was much shorter. Still, even being sick for a few days can distract one from their needed attention and focus on chastity.

The good news is that for the first time in many weeks, Ab is taking the entire weekend off. Hooray! No tootling off to the factory to catch up on this or that. While plans for the weekend have not been cast in stone (or even set) I am hoping for a little pussy worship mixed in with lots of grown-up naked playtime. After two weeks of being off my stride I am ready to get back to normal in the “let’s have sex” department. We have two weeks left before chaos descends with young people home for the holiday and I am looking to take full advantage of our time alone. Have I mentioned before I like being empty-nesters? 🙂

We have something new arriving at the Devoted Lover household and I am hoping, hoping, HOPING that UPS brings it today (the estimated ship date was December 2nd to 7th). While not exactly a sex toy, it is something that can be used in a way to develop some erotic tension and play. It also has a practical side and if it works as planned, may also save us some money. Ab is both excited and anxious. Intrigued? Well, dear readers, you’ll just have to wait for more details. Hee hee hee…Ab is not the only one around here who gets teased. 😉

From the Mailbag: VI December 1, 2010

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I received a great email the other day from a woman I’ll call “Leigh.” She started off by saying that reading my blog had been a wonderful experience for her—well, with an intro like that, naturally I am going to think that anything she has to say is great. LOL. Seriously, I really appreciate that she took the time to write and share her story—one that is becoming all too familiar.

Leigh explained that she and her husband have been married almost twenty years. Their children are in their late teens and pretty much independent, so Leigh and her husband have time for themselves again. Unfortunately, as she says, “the communication, feelings and love have been mediocre for some time.” She continues:

Our sex lives especially had become non existent and that is really the root of the problem. My husband simply was either not interested or couldn’t keep it up. This led to embarrassment and his pulling back. At my urging, he even went to several doctors and all could find nothing wrong. We tried Viagara (worked for awhile) but it too was a failure.

Then, a few weeks ago, she interrupted him in the shower and much to her surprise, found him masturbating with a nice erect cock. She was, in turn, stunned, embarrassed, and angry. She didn’t realize how much his masturbation habit was affecting their sex life; he had not been open about what he was doing. The more he masturbated, the more he covered up. Once again, a viscous circle.

Sound familiar? This is not the first time I’ve written about this problem!

Leigh started searching for a solution and came across male chastity. She noted that many of the blogs she read seemed to be pure fantasy: in her words “mistresses and slaves, etc.” But then she found my little scribblings and…

…your blog stood out as being from a real person with real experiences. I have read a good many of your entries (not all) and they truly make sense to me.

Thank you, Leigh!

After much discussion, Leigh and her husband purchased a CB-6000 which he is wearing now. She did note that she had some mixed feelings about chastity overall, but they were both willing to give it a try if it would help to restore the lost feelings and love. And now, just a few weeks later:

Anyway without your blog I probably would never had given this idea any serious consideration let alone actually try it. By the way our entire relationship has greatly improved in the past several weeks. We finally have some restored feeling and passion.

The last sentence is what made my day!

I have replied to Leigh privately but for other readers out there, I just wanted to make a few points.

  • I really appreciate when someone takes the time to write and share their feelings, either in an email or as a comment to a post. Thank you! For email, in particular, I know how it feels to screw your courage up and put pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard) and share intimate details of your life. Please know that I respect what you have done and honor your bravery.  I do respond to all emails I receive—fortunately, at present, the volume is not overwhelming so I am able to do so. So please, if something is on your mind, write and share what you are thinking.
  • Leigh’s comment: “You stood out as being a real person with real experiences.” Yes, I am and every word in this blog is true. I’ve changed a few names but other than that, everything is the pure, unvarnished truth. My goal was and still is to share the experience Ab and I are having; one to document what we are going through and two, to help others. It makes my day to know that the latter goal is being achieved.
  • I continue to be amazed at just how powerful chastity is as an intervention. Whether a couple approaches it as a game to spice up their sex life or as a possible solution to a problem, such as Leigh experienced, chastity seems to have a remarkable ability to bring couples closer together, get them talking, and help restore lost passion. It surprises me that more professionals, such as sex therapists, are not discussing chastity as an approach in sex therapy. I guess we’re all just pioneers…LOL.

In my email response to Leigh, I encouraged her and her husband, if he is so inclined, to come participate at the Chastity Forum. I offer that invitation to anyone here who is reading this, too. As I say in my introduction, we’re a fun and friendly bunch of like-minded folks—people who are exploring how chastity can work in a relationship. While blogs are great for sharing information and thoughts, the forum provides a nice place for real-time discussion and interaction. Come join us!